As a mom, we give so much of ourselves to our family that we often forget about ourselves. Whether we are struggling with breastfeeding at night, working our way through a toddler tantrum or maybe even wondering what to wear, we need a breather!
I’m so happy to have Tanya Wheeless from Happy Grace guest post on how you can find you fun again. Take it away, Tanya.
It’s easy to get lost in motherhood.
There are endless books to read, gadgets to buy, places to go and activities to do. So much that you forget what you read, bought, visited and did before that tiny, beautiful creature entered your life. You go from being Kate or Lindsay to being “Piper’s mommy” or “Brady’s mom.”
And, even though parenthood changes you in some of the most amazing ways, the you that existed before is still there. You still have desires, needs, dreams and preferences. You still need certain things to be the best version of yourself and yes, those things have absolutely nothing to do with your children.
If you don’t make your own health, happiness, and wellbeing a priority, then it’s pretty hard to be the mom I know you want to be.
So, let’s all agree that the absolute best thing we can do for our children and families is to fill our own tank!
Reconnect with Your Self
Here are four simple ways to reconnect with your essential self and keep your tank topped off.
That’s right, play time for mama. Before you had kids I know you had something you loved to do in your free time. Maybe it was catching a movie with your girls, getting lost in a DIY project or getting your sweat on. If that lit you up then, it will light you up now. Make a playdate for yourself.
I’m talking real connection, with people you dig, that isn’t happening on Facebook and that doesn’t necessarily involve the parents of your children’s friends. Who is it that one person that leaves you feeling energized after you spend time with them? Get on that person’s dance card. Could be an old college friend, a mom from your playgroup or your spouse.
Whoever it is, get on their calendar asap.
Mix it Up
Whether you have kids or not, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut, but variety is the spice of life. Take a new art class (live or from a site like Skillshare). Get a list of top 10 new restaurants and start checking them out. Learn about someone fascinating and inspiring by finding a great new podcast or audiobook. The options are endless and many can be easily integrated into your existing routine.
Listen to your body
If you’re hungry, eat. If you’re tired, sleep. If you’re sluggish, move. If you’re thirsty, drink. If someone drains your energy, quit hanging with them. Pretty basic stuff, but when we’re constantly worried about everyone else, we can forget to check-in with ourselves. The easiest way to do this is to stop, sit still, take five deep breaths and listen. Your body will tell you what it needs. Your job is to listen.
I know some of you are thinking, great in theory, but who has the time? Consider this: if your child’s teacher told you they were falling behind and needed to read to you for an hour a week, could you find the time? Pretty sure the answer is YES!
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